Comments on: Does 17 years qualify for giving marital advice?

By: Chelsie Clinton misses opportunity » Make You Go Hmm

Chelsie Clinton misses opportunity » Make You Go Hmm — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 15:35:46 +0000

[…] I believe it’s possible to have more than one best friend and be compatible with more than one person in life, but the bar should be extremely high for your chosen life partner. Right now the bar seems to be way too low. If you’d like more guidance, read past post Does 17 Years Qualify for Giving Marital Advice? […]

By: ctr

ctr — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 14:35:53 +0000

Your advice about not starting a marriage in debt is spot on. Even having a little nest egg helps when you are starting out. I say save on the wedding expenses and apply that money that will give longer term value.

By: Make You Go Hmm: » Eating on a floating restaurant

Make You Go Hmm: » Eating on a floating restaurant — Tue, 19 Sep 2006 18:09:50 +0000

[…] To celebrate our 17th anniversary we took a three day getaway trip this past weekend. Today is the actual day of our anniversary and we are working, grabbing lunch together, and then hitting dinner and a movie later tonight. One of the things we did on our trip was eat at a floating restaurant in Coeur D’ Alene, Idaho. […]

By: Make You Go Hmm: » Hmmcast #22: when traditions end

Make You Go Hmm: » Hmmcast #22: when traditions end — Fri, 08 Sep 2006 23:47:03 +0000

[…] - Sure, I’ll “keep hating” the new Netscape search, Jason (2) [sep 6] - Does 17 years qualify for giving marital advice? (**6) [sep 7] “…Yes, we were much happier after having two computers. Of course, our first such item was (years ago) getting two email accounts. Then later two cell phones. Having these separate is common now I’m sure, I imagine computers are getting there too.” – Comment by Will — September 7, 2006 @ 7:14 pm […]

By: Eric Gunnerson

Eric Gunnerson — Fri, 08 Sep 2006 23:14:14 +0000

I’m glad that somebody else subscribes to “Random Acts of Giftitude”

http://blogs.msdn.com/ericgu/archive/2006/02/14/532286.aspx

By: Kara

Kara — Fri, 08 Sep 2006 01:37:40 +0000

Interesting thoughts. I think communication is really important, if you stop communicating things fall apart. Also for me the things that I fell in love with, ie: the love notes/letters, the silly but sweet hand made cards, the spontaneous little outings still mean just as much now as they did when we were first together. The only other thing I can say is that as with everything else marriage is work and you have to work together as a couple.

By: Will

Will — Fri, 08 Sep 2006 00:14:57 +0000

Great post! A fun change from the usual gadget-talk.

Yes, we were much happier after having two computers. Of course, our first such item was (years ago) getting two email accounts. Then later two cell phones. Having these separate is common now I’m sure, I imagine computers are getting there too.

In more recent years, we got two kids as well. Also contributes to our happiness. But those are shared equally.

By: darkmoon

darkmoon — Thu, 07 Sep 2006 18:05:50 +0000

Four? man. I had four in college. I’ve upgraded since then and I’m not even married yet.

I never did understand people that thought marriage would change things either or change someone. It’s like… I thought getting married would domestic him. Uhh.. yeah. right. They haven’t been dating long enough.

Going on 4th year of dating with my LTR girlfriend. We’re not in a hurry, but it might as well be marriage. Slow and easy. What’s the rush. Love doesn’t know the bounds of time.

By: Lestat

Lestat — Thu, 07 Sep 2006 18:04:33 +0000

We don’t use the D word in our home. Its against our law. Saying something plants a seed no matter what context it’s in.

We are in big favor of #3 about difficult conversations after 10, but our schedules sometimes won’t let us around that. A bit I’ve heard to go along with it is to not have any difficult conversations IN BED.

By: Sterling Camden

Sterling Camden — Thu, 07 Sep 2006 17:47:34 +0000

Good post, TDavid. Especially the part about separate computers. Heck, I need four just for me.

Regarding having kids: don’t ever try to solve problems by having children. Sometimes people think they can cure relationship issues by having a child that will draw them together. Kids will only widen any cracks in the foundation. Before you have children, ask yourself if your mate is someone you would want next to you on a combat battlefield, because that’s often where you’ll find yourselves.

Likewise, don’t get married in order to change anything. If you bring expectations of change to the wedding, you or your partner will face some measure of disappointment. A wedding should only be an acknowledgement of a relationship already established, and a commitment to it.

My wife and I just started into our twelfth year. We’re still having fun, and she’s still the one.